S E L Fย L O V E๐
Everyone is talking about it, including myself.
But what is it?
S E L Fย L O V Eย is…
Becoming loving towards yourself.
S E L Fย L O V Eย is…
Speaking to yourself in the most loving and kind way.
Treating yourself like you would your best friend.
Forgiving yourself for past mistakes.
Actively listening to your own wants and needs.
I could keep going but I think you get my drift.
Why is self love important?
Self love is important because it can directly affect our health. If you’re into metaphysical topics, most books and teachers on the subject say this:
dis-ease manifests in our body before we even feel it; it starts in the invisible parts of ourselves (the etheric body and our aura) which is directly related to our thoughts and emotions.
I realize that the statement above probably sounds really vague, abstract and kind of ‘out there’. Believe me when I say that these concepts were foreign to me at some point too, but if it interests you enough then the information will start to sink in.๐
Know that you are not just your physical body – you also have an emotional, mental and spiritual body; four bodies total.
Now if you REALLY want to get technical, we actually have more than 4 bodies and more than 7 chakras. I will stick to the topic and save that for another blog post.
So it is important to begin to think loving thoughts about ourselves, it’s important to drop the negativity and the self hate. When have you ever felt good and happy about saying bad things about yourself?
If it doesn’t feel good, then why continue?
I used to be in the same boat as you; I was always quick to call myself stupid, an idiot or a dumbass. I wasn’t kind to myself and I was especially harsh about my looks. I often thought I was fat and ugly.
After awhile, you notice that you just don’t feel good about yourself and the pattern of negativity keeps on repeating. You keep having the same experiences that seem to suck or drain your energy dry, like stressful relationships with people where nothing ever goes smoothly or just being constantly overworked at your job.
And so you resulted in eating bad food or drinking and doing drugs. Or doing things that push those negative feelings down or numb the pain.
And then it just keeps on happening over and over again and you can’t get out.
Perhaps you’re stuck in a similar kind of pattern in life that keeps on repeating that you’d like to get out of.
What are these patterns that I’m talking about? Patterns come in the form of negative thoughts, feelings, behaviors, actions.
I never considered myself super feminine or girly so I was not attracted to Rose Quartz for a long time. One of the books that really changed my life though is a book by Louise Hay called You Can Heal Your Life. The affirmations in that book were simple and really helped me to reprogram my brain to think better thoughts about myself.
What does self love have to do with Rose Quartz?
A whole lot actually, being that Rose Quartz IS only the most popular stone for healing our hearts and learning to love ourselves. No matter what gender you are, if you are ready to let love back in, you will be attracted to Rose Quartz.๐๐น๐
You can start by just simply getting some Rose Quartz in raw or polished form (spheres, pyramids, self-standing towers, whatever your preference) and start putting it in your bedroom. In some ways, you don’t really have to do anything because just by you intending to get the stone and wanting to place it in your home, the healing has already begun. Crystals and stones are intelligent in that way and Rose Quartz immediately starts to do its gentle yet powerful work without you realizing it.๐ธ
Suggestion: combine Rose Quartz with an affirmation.
Hold your Rose Quartz to your heart, close your eyes and begin breathing in and out for a few minutes. You can think about what it is you’d like to let go of or just breathe. Whatever you choose, know that Rose Quartz is already healing you.
You can say “I am a loving and beautiful person”
or you can say your name and then say “I love and accept you as you are”.
In Louise Hay’s book, she suggests that we do this in front of a mirror. For me, it was kind of hard to look at myself and say “I love and accept you as you are” but if you keep practicing you will eventually dissolve those blocks of discomfort.
Conclusion:
When we are actively working with Rose Quartz and using affirmations on a regular basis, we can learn to undo the negative thought patterns that tend to occupy the mind which lead to physical manifestation that is often not good for us.
As the late Louise Hay says – YOU can heal your life.
Question: I am a man, identify as a male or have masculine qualities so I’m not attracted to Rose Quartz or anything pink at all. Are there other stones I can work with?
Yes! In the Chakra system, the heart center is actually associated with the color green. You can work with any green stone – Green Adventurine, Green Apophyllite, Nephrite Jade, Peridot and Serpentine are a few examples. You can also work with a Quartz crystal, as it is known as a Master crystal that is used for all purposes.
As a matter of fact, you can work with any crystal or stone that personally represents love to you. Rose Quartz is just a starting point but it doesn’t have to be.